1. There's a network of feminist bloggers who've gone through Hell and, on looking back, decided that not only was some of their misery caused by people who treated them badly simply because they were women, but that the ways those mistreaters got their ideas of what a woman was "for" came primarily from:
- The messages that porn sends about what women are "for" and what men are "for"
- The messages that America's legal system's decisions about when and how to regulate porn send about what women are "for" (appearing with other peoples' "speech" expressed on their naked bodies) and what women are "not for" (appearing with their own "speech" expressed on their naked bodies)
- The messages that America's legal system's decisions about when and how to regulate/prosecute the various people involved in prostitution send about what women are "for"
- The messages that labor laws and government involvement with childcare subsidies send about what women are "for" and what men are "for"
- The messages that beauty practices and advertising send about what women are "for" and what men are "for"
2. There's a network of feminist bloggers who disagree that these phenomena actually influence the way parents raise kids, the differences in what people get scolded for by friends and family, etc. They disagree that these phenomena give woman-mistreaters their ideas about how it's "natural" for men and women to interact.
3. Lately I've discovered that there's also a network of feminist bloggers who tend to have a few of both kinds among their outbound links. Unlike the second group, they dig the idea that our society has a lot of harmful messages that do turn people who might have been randomly mean to others into people who are mean to a particular category of other people (such as women). They're all for getting rid of those messages, but they feel like the first type of feminist I listed up above spends far too much time pointing out what negative messages float around in society and not enough time trying to give people positive alternatives that sound appealing.
- For example, instead of trying to convince women to stop looking like the weaker sex they're told they are naturally (thin, relatively unmuscular, slow (both because of high heels and inferior muscular development), smooth-skinned, etc.) why not convince women to start looking like the pretty-insignificantly-weaker sex they really are naturally? (chunky, muscular enough to hunt, fight, etc. effectively, on average almost as fast as the other sex, wrinkled, etc.)
- Instead of spending so much time telling women to "embrace" wrinkles & pores just because they're "not socially acceptable" and that makes you different, why not spend a lot of time telling women what useful things wrinkles and pores are a byproduct of (time outside getting things done, hard labor getting things done with muscles that can actually do hard labor, etc.)? Why not tell women that aged-looking skin like a man's isn't a price you pay for being a radical dissident--it's a price you pay for being physically strong enough to get your air conditioner up & down a narrow set of steps without anyone else's help, just like your brother can when he needs to?
(I've noticed that really strong women, in person, tend to have skin that looks a little "older"--I assume because with their strength, they spent more time outside hauling rocks into their gardens, patching their roofs, and doing other useful tasks they found easy or manageable. I do not yet know if there's really a correlation, but it's my experience that there is, and if one really exists, we can turn "wrinkles and pores" into a good thing, not just a "not bad" thing!)
- Likewise, I think they're into giving men suggestions about what to do in various everyday situations, and that they perceive my first type of feminist as being into giving men suggestions about what not to do in everyday situations.
Unfortunately, they don't get around to blogging much about this--which I hope to fix.
Another problem they seem to have with that first group of feminists is that they disproportionately talk about how to get more people to reject the status quo with respect to the bulleted list of social messages I listed above. These middle-of-the-road feminists want to talk more about other social messages worth rejecting (and worth coming up with alternatives to).